I was privileged to spend my day yesterday with a beautiful group of human beings. One of the women, whose husband is my husband’s friend, is mothering two children she did not birth. When I first saw two young babies without their mothers, I cried. (That sensitive heart of mine.) My husband encouraged me to see the bright side of the situation, that they were being taken care of by a wonderful family and they are loved. I wiped my tears and continued to watch this family throughout the day.
Those two babies are fortunate. They are in the care of a woman who loves them as deeply as I love my own 3 children. She is their mother and she loves them unconditionally.
Mothering is by far the most rewarding and challenging “job” I have ever had. My children need me to be present, to be with them and to love them. They also know exactly how to push my buttons and encourage me to grow. These three young people need me. They need ME! On days when I would rather stay in bed, I am up and taking care of them. For me, this is all part of unconditional love and fulfilling the role of mother. To sometimes put others’ needs before your own, even if it means pooping with three sets of eyes watching you.
Mamas, we are all in this together! If we see a fellow mama struggling with a tantrum-ing child, instead of secretly judging her, help her out. We have all been there. Mothering is not intended to be done in isolation. We all know children have boundless energy and curiosity and a need to be seen. Grandmas, sisters, aunts, cousins, friends……Let us be the village that we long for. Let’s love each other.
Love is a promise, love is a souvenir, once given never forgotten, never let it disappear. –John Lennon