The Mindful Mother’s Way is an invitation to make small shifts in your daily life, creating time and space for nurturing, knowing, embracing, and being yourself. In doing so, you will invite more mindfulness, presence, joy, play, and love into your day. Its foundation is built upon the belief that motherhood helps you to find yourself, and is both a practice and spiritual journey. It is an exploration of the concept and a practical guide to the power of practicing mindfulness and savoring the extraordinary in the ordinary. My hope is that in your times of calmness, you strengthen your spiritual core, connect with your innate wisdom and how you choose to mother, and find ways to celebrate motherhood’s journey. After all, the days are long but the years are short.
This book can be used in many ways, and you choose how it works best for you. It can serve as a meditation guide, a daily reminder, a go-to for answers, and even as a friend when you are having one of “those days.” Part 1 explores the what and why of mindfulness and how incorporating it into your life can enrich your life and mothering. Part 2 consists of anecdotes and practices designed to help you restore calm, increase confidence, be present with and release strong emotions, and deepen the connection with yourself and your children. Part 3 is a celebration of you and the mother you are.
While writing this book, I was given plenty of opportunities daily to put the principles to work. Trying to find calm when my boys are treating the living room like a wrestling arena and peace when their play turns into physical fighting. Some days, I was more successful than others, and on the days when I felt like I just couldn’t win, I gave myself some grace and reminded myself of my humanity and my perfect imperfection. Sometimes this is easier said than done, and I am grateful for apologies, second chances, and hugs.
There are times when I look at my children, and my heart fills with love and tears of joy stream down my face. I feel incredibly blessed to witness their growth and becoming who they are. They make me want to be the best version of myself, and always try again when I feel I’ve let them down. It’s all part of the process.
Yes, the days are long on this path of motherhood. And some days seem to never end, when the children are in break-down mode and needing me to assist them with all of their daily tasks. These times of overwhelm are when I call on my highest self to remind myself to slow down, take a deep breath, and do what I can. The lotus comes from the murkiest water, just as motherhood’s challenges allow us to grow into the best version of ourselves.
Before we are mothers, we are individuals, and that is why many of the practices are designed to be completed alone. To give our children respect, acceptance, encouragement, boundaries, and above all unconditional love, we have to learn and practice them with ourselves. The relationship we have with ourselves is the most valuable relationship, as it sets the tone for all our other relationships.
The way we mother is as unique as our fingerprints. When we are able to quiet down, seek within and connect with our maternal essence, we always choose what’s right for our children and for us as we will never lead ourselves astray. We have all the answers we need available to us at all times.
The Mindful Mother’s Way will help you find the space between the thoughts, before the reaction, which is your truth. You will be guided on the path which leads you back home to yourself. There is no perfect here, only perfect imperfection and love.